Let’s face it, dating apps are a double-edged sword — they carry the possibility for a magnificent gift of love, but also a terrifying potential for getting cursed out, rejected, or humiliated. Of course, you’d never be alone: As of 2021, some 370.1 million people use dating apps, according to the website 2date4love.
Nearly everyone I’ve come across in my personal life has used a dating app, is currently using a dating app, or has heard at least one dating app story, good or bad. I myself used dating apps religiously, with messages coming in from Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, and even OkCupid before I started dating my boyfriend. Before you ask: We met through work, not a dating app. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t have luck on them; some of my exes came from Tinder.
And the clichés about dating apps are no farce. I saw so many things: meme accounts, accounts with one awkward picture, people who’d cuss you out if you didn’t respond quickly enough, and weird bios that made you scratch your head. You grow used to seeing these profiles, wondering what would happen if they had chosen just a little bit differently. Well, it’s about time to speak about the most common dating app faux pas — and give tips for fixing them.
1. Face-obstructing selfies
Whether it be an unfortunate haircut or an intentionally awkward angle to hide that surprise zit, the amount of low-quality, face-obstructing selfies I saw on dating apps was out of control. “If your romantic interest can’t immediately tell what you look like because your photos are old and low-quality, or because you have too many group shots (or because you’re wearing sunglasses, or because your photo is over-edited…) they’re swiping left! Do yourself a favor, and take an hour to take some quality photos if you don’t have six already,” says Blaine Anderson, founder and CEO of DatingByBlaine.com, a consultation service that helps men up the ante on their dating profiles.
A good, quality photo is an unobstructed view of your face, showing off your best features. For my pictures, I’d make sure to tilt ever so slightly to the side of my face I like, angle the phone slightly upward, and be sure I got a lot of light. (You might even invest in a mini-ring light and practice your angles if you’re committed to fixing this issue.)
2. Lying about age or height
Many think that they have to lie about their height or age to seem desirable. The most common examples of this I ran into were men lying about being six feet tall; in person, I’d inevitably find out they were six inches off. As Kevin Darné, author of Online Dating Avoid the Catfish!: How to Date Online Successfully says, “Lying about age, height, weight, career, and relationship status is a big mistake if you’re hoping to have a serious relationship.”
Charly Lester, a dating expert and founder of Lumen, a dating app for people over 50, says, “…….